Technical Foul

Thursday, August 20, 2009 

Techinical Foul

I’m calling a Technical on a blog written by a friend of mine.  He was talking about signs, the signals men and women send out.  He made some very valid points about the games women play.  But guys do the same thing.  

Women have just as much trouble reading signals from men.  You almost need a degree in reading body language to have a conversation with a man.  And why is it a man and woman can talk online and text on every subject under the sun, and I mean EVERYTHING, but when you’re sitting on the couch next to each other nobody knows how to act? 

Is he gonna kiss me?  Should I kiss him?  Why doesn’t he make a move?  What would he do if I made a move?  Guys should come with instruction books. 

I have a friend I play poker with.  He’s shown signs of interest for some time now, always wanting a hug when I see him and getting touchy-feely when I hug him (especially when he’s had a couple beers), touching me in some small way everytime I’m within arms reach.  Recently he was getting quite touchy, without any liquid courage, and we ended up trading text messages for the rest of the evening while we played cards.  The next week, not one word out of him. 

I’ll let you guys in on a little secret….  it’s just as confusing for women as it is men.  Men are supposedly simple creatures you just need to feed, keep warm, and play with on ocassion to make them happy.  Bull Shit!  Men are more complicated than women.  It’s not easy to figure out the thinking of a creature with two heads, even if the one head is really predictable. 

I’m facing the daunting task of dating again.  It’s been 15 years since I thought about dating.  I’m not sure I remember the rules. 

If you’re interested, how about just saying so?  Or even better, when I walk into the room, pull me into your arms and say hello with a kiss.  Now there’s a sign……



I have a new favorite song with this lyric: S is for the simple need. Is there anything simpler than need?

I need air to breathe. It is an involuntary action, automatic. Yes, you can control it. Ever tried meditating, or serious physical training? Breath control during those activities helps you achieve results.

I need shelter, too. I do know how to come in out of the rain so I don’t catch cold. But I also know that sometimes you need to run through a puddle and dance to the drumming of rain and thunder. I need food and water. My body will tell me if I’ve gone too long without eating or drinking anything. Its way of reminding me there’s more to life than work.

I need contact with other people. Conversation for starters. I can’t write about people without some examples to draw from. And I like a good conversation. Contact is more than just eavesdropping on people in the mall or grocery store. It’s the innocent touch of someone’s hand on my shoulder, a kiss on the cheek from a child, a hug from a friend, a lover’s caress on my back. Physical touch is as important as an emotional connection. It reminds us that we are living, breathing, feeling creatures.

If you go too long without one of these needs your body lets you know. One way or another we will have to find what we need. That’s the part that isn’t so simple…..