Let’s face it. $#!% happens. Not every relationship we have, romantic or otherwise, works out the way we want it to. Families have falling-outs. Friends drift away from each other. Lovers lose the flame. It happens. Life goes on. Do you?
Regardless to how a relationship ends, we take away both good and bad memories. That’s normal. What most of us don’t see is that we tend to fall back on those familiar patterns. We seek out what we know from our past because it’s not as scary as something new. I’ll give you an example….
Most of us know someone who has been in an abusive relationship. The only way to break the cycle of abuse is to get out of it. But when the reality of life without those behaviors sets in, the abused will seek out the same type of relationship because it’s familiar.
A similar example would be the person who gets cheated on repeatedly. Every relationship ends because their partner cheats. They expect that behavior and unconsciously seek out and want partners who will fulfill that pattern.
Insanity is performing the same action over and over expecting a different result. If you put yourself in the same situations you’ve been hurt in before, you will get hurt again.
It’s scary to step out of that comfort zone and try something new. I don’t want to have to change. But if I don’t then no one will.