I hate wasting energy. Sometimes I need to vent and it feels like a huge valve has released all my frustration and anger. Once the valve closes I feel drained, tired. Then I get irritated with myself because it feels like I’ve wasted a lot of energy getting upset over something that I can not change.
All my friends come to me for advice in some shape or form. It’s like I have Dear Abby tattooed on my ass. Don’t get me wrong. I love to help my friends. And I’m finding as I get older I enjoy picking apart people’s motivations for their actions. But Dear Abby I’m not.
I can’t fix everyone. Even the ones that realize the issues and want help, I can only do so much. I am just one person with my own issues and flaws. You have to want to help yourself if you expect to see positive change.
So I have to let go of my own frustration, my anger. Let it simmer down and cool. Whatever I’m supposed to accomplish will happen one way or another. I just have to remember not to fight it. I’ve found this mantra to be helpful:
Goddess, grant me the serenity to accept the people I can not change, the courage to help the ones I can, and the wisdom to tell the rest to shit or get off the pot.