How ya doing today? Got lots to do? Need any help? There is a HUGE difference in realizing that you may need help and the ability to help yourself. Can you honestly say you know the difference? Not many of us can.
Let’s say you have finally concluded that you are so totally overwhelmed that you need help. Now what? Where do you start? Are you sure you know where you need the help the most? Take a look at what stresses you the most….
Coworkers not pulling their weight, job tasks piling up & overflowing your desk, total dread of the drive into work on Monday morning? Maybe, but are there other stressers in your life that you try to push aside and not think about? Lack of communication with a spouse or family member, feeling you made a mistake getting involved at a young age, unresolved grief over the loss of a loved-one? These are deeper issues that take more than a week’s vacation to recover from.
Stress from work and sources outside of your immediate sphere of influence are like gunshot wounds, easily identifiable and treatable. When you push aside or hide from the deeper issues it makes them exponentially harder to deal with, like a cancer buried deep inside your body. And just like a cancer they will continue to eat at you until you have no choice but to face them.
‘I’ve tried talking to a shrink,’ you say. ‘I’ve read every self-help book Oprah ever recommended.’ Until you are ready to forgive yourself for whatever transgressions you feel you made in your past you will not be able to move past the emotional baggage that goes with them. It’s not something you can get a quick fix for, no easy cure-all potions.
You have to forgive yourself and rebuild your self-esteem and self-respect. If you don’t respect yourself, how do you expect anyone else to respect you? Making yourself and your emotional health a priority is very important. You are the only one who can make the decisions needed to keep you healthy.
What you need to do first is think about where the true issues lie. Take an honest look in the mirror. Respect starts with you. Don’t sell yourself short. You waste time you could spend enjoying life instead of stressing over other people. Think about it…