I recently shared a photo/sign on my facebook page that reads: I am aware that I am less than some people prefer me to be but most people are unaware that I am so much more than what they see. This is true for several reasons, one of them being that most people don’t look closely enough. Another reason is that people expect to find a perfect match every time.
It is humanly impossible to be everything to any one individual. If you’re looking for someone to be your everything, good luck! But it ain’t happening. No one person is perfect. And even people who spend years together can still surprise each other because you never really know everything about them. So how do you know if they are everything you need at this moment?
You have to look beyond the surface. Ask questions that require more than a one-word answer. And when you start getting answers, take notes! I know way too many people to keep up with every little detail. I take notes. So that conversation 3 months ago when you admitted you sing the Barney theme song in the shower… yeah, I got that. =)
Getting to know people is a never-ending process. It requires good communication skills, patience, and practice. So take some time and ask a few questions. Remember to be willing to answer them yourself. You never know who someone is when you’re not looking…