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It’s hard to believe it’s almost Thanksgiving. Yes, I have started my Christmas shopping but only because I don’t want to have to deal with the crowds later on. And I’m making a present this year and would like to not have to worry about more shopping while I try to finish it.
What else is going on? I was sick the entire month of October. I’m halfway through the current quarter of school. And I’m attempting NaNoWriMo this year. Attempting because I really haven’t had much time to write until one of my classes ended this past Friday. But I am really excited about my story. I think it will be good once it’s finished. I’m also still editing at Voluted Tales. That’s actually been a lot of fun. I’m glad to have had the opportunity to help out Mark Turner and the rest of the staff.
One big thing I have coming up is a blog tour I’m putting together to help showcase an awesome band. I’ve seen Skinn Jakkitt perform live a few times now and will happily go see them again. I love music and will gladly help showcase and promote good performers. Be sure to come back soon for a run down on the blog tour.
We have survived the Mayan’s math skills! Or rather we have come to the end of a particular cycle. That means it’s time for a new one to begin.
Many people are dealing with a lot of stress this holiday season. There are a multitude of reasons for that stress. What we all need to remember is that we are not alone. It’s okay to miss people who are gone, to wish people gone who are here, to forgive those who have hurt you in whatever way, big or small.
Celebrate the fact that you are alive today. Hug someone who’s important to you. Kiss someone under a sprig of mistletoe. Stand in the sunshine and take a moment to be happy.
Depending on who I say that to I will get a wide range of responses. It varies based on the relationship I have with each person I ask. Oh, dear. I said the R word. Don’t freak out on me. Keep reading.
Let me start by showing you several types of relationships:
parent – child
child – parent
spouse – spouse
friend – friend
lover – lover
neighbor – neighbor
boss – employee
coach – athlete
nurse – patient
customer – cashier/server/hairdresser/mechanic/tailor….
The list could go on but I have more to say. 😉
No two people are the same. Even twins have at least one variation from each other in some way. So why would you expect your relationships to all be the same? Every relationship is unique to the two people involved in it.
There are patterns and themes that repeat. Seeing those patterns is not always easy. When you think to yourself “why does this keep happening” you need to keep one important thing in mind. The one thing all of your relationships have in common…….. is You.
This doesn’t mean that something is wrong with you. It means you are human and tend to repeat patterns you are accustomed to. When you repeat the same behaviors you get the same patterns. Naturally, that leads me to this: if you want to see different patterns, change your behavior. Even changing one thing in one relationship can make a difference.
Each of our actions is like a ripple on a pond. One change here, will lead to another change there. But here’s the thing to remember: the changes happen within us. When we look at something differently, we react to it differently. In turn the people around us react to us differently.
There’s a writer on my Facebook page who is always bitching about Mondays. It’s to the point I don’t read anything she posts on a Sunday. I’ve tried to show her that Mondays are only as bad as you let them be. She already knows she has to get up and go to work. Nothing new. So why be so uptight about it? I like Mondays. The beginning of each week is another chance to have a great week. If she would change her behavior she might actually have a good day on a Monday. Imagine that.
Even if you think you don’t have a “Relationship” with someone, you do. If you’ve spoken more than once and gotten past “Hello, how are you?” then you have a relationship even if it’s only a casual acquaintance. That doesn’t mean your favorite guy-friend will turn into dating material. It doesn’t mean the girl you speak to at the grocery store will turn out to be as bitchy as your ex-wife.
We talk to people everyday that will be part of our lives in some way. Don’t be afraid of the R word. It’s only as bad as you let it be. Now, tell me something good….
What do you do when you feel uninspired? Do you try to force the words to come? Do you sit around and wait for inspiration to strike? Maybe try changing up your writing routine in hopes of freeing your Muse?
Throw something at me and I’ve probably tried it at least twice trying to kickstart my Muse. I’m not sure what the problem is. Am I afraid of completing something and actually being successful with it? Am I so afraid of failing that I can’t work up enough courage to try?
There are probably as many reasons why we don’t try things as there are people to ask the question. I have OCD, maybe even a touch of ADD. I’m not the only one. What makes me so special? Only I can decide if I will allow myself to be my own distraction.
We are truly in charge of our own destinies. If you feel unproductive, then do something. If you feel like you lack confidence, find something that helps you build your confidence and keep doing it until you feel strong in your self esteem.
Take control of your own life. Don’t wallow in the past. Don’t let other people get so far inside your head that their voice is the only one you hear talking to you. Find your voice. Do whatever it takes.
This month has flown by. I’ve had several writing-related events, finished editing a short story to send out, helped my in-person writing group plan for NaNoWriMo, not to mention all the sewing, crocheting, and hat-making I’ve been doing. But the month is not over just yet…
Have you taken time to follow Karina Fabian’s blog tour? Check here to find out about her new book, Neeta Lyffe 2: I Left My Brains In San Francisco. I will be interviewing Neeta Lyffe here on October 30.
Is that even a real question?
If you ask 100 writers for advice on writing you’ll get 100 different answers. Writing does have rules; however, it is a very subjective craft, even within genres.
Each writer has a style. Some are similar to other writers. Some try to copy other writers. Some go out of their way to stand out from the crowd and be as unique as they possibly can.
How do you decide where you want to fit into this crazy roller coaster? Pick something. If you’re the type who tests the water before getting in, you may want to start with writing something you know. Something familiar may help you get your feet wet before you dive into the deep end. If you like to push and challenger yourself, then go for the high dive and jump into something unknown.
Write what you know. Write what you don’t know. Write about what you hate. Write about what you love. Write what scares. Write what makes you happy.
Regardless to how you try to start, the important thing is that you start. Get those words on the page. Whether you’re writing science fiction, romances, news articles, text books, greeting cards, whatever it is, just start writing.
Try to eliminate as many distractions as possible. Clear your writing space. Clear your mind. Hide your to-do list. Whatever it takes so you feel free to sit still and generate words, do it.
I think the piece of advice I like best is to write what you want to read. It is impossible to write one thing that will please everyone who reads it. Write to please yourself. Write what excites you. Write with passion.