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Another weekend is here. My OCD has forced me to clean my room already even though it’s my weekend to clean the whole house. I’ll get all the other rooms tomorrow. I’ve been sick since just before the beginning of the month. Lost my voice a few days before my birthday but still had a good time at the party. The last couple weeks my head has been so stuffy I’ve slept only a couple hours at a time, waking up to blow my nose a few times before being able to sleep again. To say the least, I am sick and tired of being sick and tired. Naps in the afternoon are nice, but enough already.
Today, I’ve managed not to take a nap. And my cough is almost gone. Being healthy is not something we should take for granted. Not to sound like an infomercial, but….
Get enough sleep. Drink lots of water. Take care of your skin. Get exercise and sunshine every day. Take your vitamins. Do something creative every day. And don’t forget to pamper yourself now and then. You can’t be strong for anybody else if you’re not strong for yourself.
It’s Friday. What are you doing this weekend?
Depending on who I say that to I will get a wide range of responses. It varies based on the relationship I have with each person I ask. Oh, dear. I said the R word. Don’t freak out on me. Keep reading.
Let me start by showing you several types of relationships:
parent – child
child – parent
spouse – spouse
friend – friend
lover – lover
neighbor – neighbor
boss – employee
coach – athlete
nurse – patient
customer – cashier/server/hairdresser/mechanic/tailor….
The list could go on but I have more to say. 😉
No two people are the same. Even twins have at least one variation from each other in some way. So why would you expect your relationships to all be the same? Every relationship is unique to the two people involved in it.
There are patterns and themes that repeat. Seeing those patterns is not always easy. When you think to yourself “why does this keep happening” you need to keep one important thing in mind. The one thing all of your relationships have in common…….. is You.
This doesn’t mean that something is wrong with you. It means you are human and tend to repeat patterns you are accustomed to. When you repeat the same behaviors you get the same patterns. Naturally, that leads me to this: if you want to see different patterns, change your behavior. Even changing one thing in one relationship can make a difference.
Each of our actions is like a ripple on a pond. One change here, will lead to another change there. But here’s the thing to remember: the changes happen within us. When we look at something differently, we react to it differently. In turn the people around us react to us differently.
There’s a writer on my Facebook page who is always bitching about Mondays. It’s to the point I don’t read anything she posts on a Sunday. I’ve tried to show her that Mondays are only as bad as you let them be. She already knows she has to get up and go to work. Nothing new. So why be so uptight about it? I like Mondays. The beginning of each week is another chance to have a great week. If she would change her behavior she might actually have a good day on a Monday. Imagine that.
Even if you think you don’t have a “Relationship” with someone, you do. If you’ve spoken more than once and gotten past “Hello, how are you?” then you have a relationship even if it’s only a casual acquaintance. That doesn’t mean your favorite guy-friend will turn into dating material. It doesn’t mean the girl you speak to at the grocery store will turn out to be as bitchy as your ex-wife.
We talk to people everyday that will be part of our lives in some way. Don’t be afraid of the R word. It’s only as bad as you let it be. Now, tell me something good….
What do you do when you feel uninspired? Do you try to force the words to come? Do you sit around and wait for inspiration to strike? Maybe try changing up your writing routine in hopes of freeing your Muse?
Throw something at me and I’ve probably tried it at least twice trying to kickstart my Muse. I’m not sure what the problem is. Am I afraid of completing something and actually being successful with it? Am I so afraid of failing that I can’t work up enough courage to try?
There are probably as many reasons why we don’t try things as there are people to ask the question. I have OCD, maybe even a touch of ADD. I’m not the only one. What makes me so special? Only I can decide if I will allow myself to be my own distraction.
We are truly in charge of our own destinies. If you feel unproductive, then do something. If you feel like you lack confidence, find something that helps you build your confidence and keep doing it until you feel strong in your self esteem.
Take control of your own life. Don’t wallow in the past. Don’t let other people get so far inside your head that their voice is the only one you hear talking to you. Find your voice. Do whatever it takes.
I’m tickled fuscia to have Neeta Lyffe on the blog today. As you know she is
the nation’s leading expert on zombie extermination. Our readers have sent in their must-know questions and we have the top nine questions for Neeta right now.
BB: How did you like the convention in San Francisco?
NL: I would have enjoyed it a lot better if the zombies hadn’t picked that weekend to invade the Bay Area, that’s for certain. However, the lecture on finding a cure for zombie-ism was fascinating and useful, and of course, the expo floor was top-notch, as usual. I ended up spending a little more than I anticipated, but I’m very glad for the new monofilament swords and the helmets.
BB: Are the zombies any different in San Francisco?
NL: These ones certainly were, in that most came from the GiveBack Memorial Gardens and Fish Preserve, so they were waterlogged, partly eaten (or inhabited) by sea life, and many had weights implanted in their posteriors. They were probably the grossest undead I’ve ever encountered, and I had had over 40 rekills to my name at that time.
BB: What’s your favorite weapon?
NL: Well, it used to be the chainsaw, but I’m becoming very fond of the monofilament sword. They’re don’t splatter as much and are easier to handle.
BB: Are the rumors of a romance with Ted true?
NL: We’re engaged, but we haven’t set the date yet.
BB: How do you balance exterminating zombies and romance?
NL: Ted makes it easy. He knows how to find joy in the most stressful or disgusting aspects of the work. Not to mention, he thinks I’m hot when I’m dressed in a rubber HazMat suit and wielding a bloody chainsaw. How many women can say that about their fiancés?
BB: Is it possible to have a relationship with a zombie?
NL: Of course not. Zombies are simply dead flesh that has been reanimated by some process we don’t understand yet. They may walk, eat, and retain certain habits, but there is no sentience, no intelligence, and no soul.
BB: What’s in store for us on the next season of Zombie Death Extreme? Any spoilers?
NL: It’s taking place in Jamaica this year, so I don’t have any connection to it. I’m glad about that, frankly; one season was enough for me.
BB: Who has been your favorite contestant so far?
NL: From ZDE-Bayou, you mean? Juliet Montigue has a level head and a lot of drive. She may not have been as intelligent as some of the other candidates, but she has common sense and was willing to work to make up for her deficiencies. Even though she didn’t win, I hear she’s doing very well for herself in Minnesota as an exterminator.
BB: Anything else you’d like to tell our readers?
NL: Despite what you see on TV or read about re-killing zombies, it is extremely dangerous. Even if you avoid being bitten, zombie-ism is spread by bodily fluids, so you can become just as infected by splatter. Remember—Distract, Run, and call 9-1-1. You can learn more about my extermination business and about the show Zombie Death Extreme at http://zombiedeathextreme.com
There you have it, Folks. Remember to call an expert when zombies attack. Call Neeta Lyffe.
Went outside today around noon and it was only 57 degrees. One of the things I love about October. The air gets cooler, crisper. The trees start to turn colors. I turn another year older.
There is also the Muse Online Writer’s Conference which runs the second week of October. Always free and always fun and challenging. I’ve picked out a few workshops to follow that will help with my in-person writing group as well as a couple just for me. Should make for an interesting week.
Also this month, Karina Fabian is touring a blog near you with her newest release from Damnation Books, Neeta Lyffe 2: I Left My Brains In San Francisco. I’ll be hosting Karina’s star, Neeta Lyffe, later on this month. Get the full tour schedule here. Karina is also looking for a Zombie Idol to sing the theme song. Details on the singing contest at Karina’s blogspot.
November is fast approaching. That means NaNoWriMo! I’ve got a list of prep topics for my local group, Hickory Writer’s Society. We will have a blast this month trying to make word count. I still don’t know what I’m writing this year but I can’t wait to get started.
I’ve always liked fall. I hope this one continues to be as fun as it has started out. See you soon!
Is that even a real question?
If you ask 100 writers for advice on writing you’ll get 100 different answers. Writing does have rules; however, it is a very subjective craft, even within genres.
Each writer has a style. Some are similar to other writers. Some try to copy other writers. Some go out of their way to stand out from the crowd and be as unique as they possibly can.
How do you decide where you want to fit into this crazy roller coaster? Pick something. If you’re the type who tests the water before getting in, you may want to start with writing something you know. Something familiar may help you get your feet wet before you dive into the deep end. If you like to push and challenger yourself, then go for the high dive and jump into something unknown.
Write what you know. Write what you don’t know. Write about what you hate. Write about what you love. Write what scares. Write what makes you happy.
Regardless to how you try to start, the important thing is that you start. Get those words on the page. Whether you’re writing science fiction, romances, news articles, text books, greeting cards, whatever it is, just start writing.
Try to eliminate as many distractions as possible. Clear your writing space. Clear your mind. Hide your to-do list. Whatever it takes so you feel free to sit still and generate words, do it.
I think the piece of advice I like best is to write what you want to read. It is impossible to write one thing that will please everyone who reads it. Write to please yourself. Write what excites you. Write with passion.